If there is one expression that you should remove from your vocabulary IMMEDIATELY, it is the usage of “can’t”.
“I can’t do this”
“I can’t finish it”
“I can’t make it”
Sounds familiar? We’ve all been guilty of using this expression quite often. However, when we take a closer look at what that means exactly, we see that this can have a negative effect on our behavioral patterns over the long haul. Let me give you a simple and yet effective way to look at this.
When you use “can’t”, you are chopping your legs from underneath you. Because in reality, anything CAN be done. That’s right, everything is a possibility, and anyone can make any possibility a reality at any given moment. Look around you, everything that you see, use, touch, and feel on a daily basis was thought possible by someone at some point in time. Because this person believed that it could be a possibility, it then became a reality.
Now, your subconscious knows that everything is possible. It’s our filters and barriers from the conscious mind that make us think that we can’t do certain things. So when you say can’t, what that really means is that you DON’T WANT to. And what you don’t want to do, you WILL NOT do. It’s that simple.
So when you use the expression “I can’t”, you automatically program yourself never to do it. Since can’t means won’t in your mind, if you keep repeating that, then expect it to become a fact of your life. This is why you need to eradicate “can’t” from your vocabulary and instead use a more appropriate replacement, such as “I could” or “I’ll try”, or even better yet “I will” and “I am”.
If you want to be truly successful in your life, you need to believe that you CAN do absolutely anything. Most people fail or fail to try due to negative self talk, which has nothing to do with skills or talent. Don’t allow yourself to make that mistake.
Henry Ford once said, “whether you believe you can or you can’t, you are right!”
I love the saying because I was in jail for 2 years for the first year I kept on saying I can’t do this I can’t do this I can’t do this. But after the first year I kept on getting told I can’t means I won’t and from then on my whole world has changed I have always use positive words I will try I can do this it is not impossible. I even quit smoking for a couple months and then I said I can’t handle this stress so I started smoking again I wish that I had the power to start saying I can quit over and over again so that way I can quit again.
“Do or do not, there is no try.” Yoda
RIGHT ON! My sentiments EXACTLY!
The power of positive thought is definitely an under utilised tool. Life can pass you by very quickly – having the right mindset will ensure that you can get the most out of it!
I totally agree. Another word I feel that should be banned from our volcabulary is the word “Try”. I feel it's an escape route for not putting the adequate amount of effort required.