I have known some very jealous personalities in my life. To be perfectly honest, I can’t think of any one of them that ended up being truly happy or successful. Jealousy has a way of destroying everything in front of it without regards. I can freely admit that I am not a jealous person, and I feel that it has a lot to do with the fact that I concentrate more on what I do than what others do. I believe that I could be a jealous person if I wouldn’t have this control over myself. After all, I am a very competitive person that thrives on adversity. I would seem to be the perfect fit to have jealous tendencies, yet I do not. Here are some tips that I live by which I believe can make a significant difference in controlling your jealousy:

Focus on your qualities
I spend more time thinking about what I do right than what I do wrong. We all have our faults, sure. But why should we be reminded of them constantly? I am a very positive person, I will look at the glass as half full. I do not see problems, I see opportunities. I feel that being positive and always looking at the silver lining helps tremendously in avoiding feelings of jealousy. Jealousy thrives on negative emotions, so take the negativity out of the equation and your jealousy can barely survive. You are the best positioned person to know what you are doing right. You are therefore the best person to remind yourself of all that is positive about you. Do not count on others to do that for you, because you cannot be guaranteed it will always be the case. If I do think of a fault of mine, I think of it in terms of what I can do to improve it. I never dwell on anything negative about me, I feel that is a big waste of time, and a trap to affect other emotions, such as jealousy in this case.

Do not compare yourself
One of the main reasons why people feel jealousy, is that they compare themselves to other people and what they have. We are all completely unique individuals, and once you fully understand this concept, you will realize that comparison among each other is useless. We all have things that others don’t have and vice versa. The combination of what we have and what we do not have is unique. Now, you can aspire to have something or have a certain characteristic like someone else. That is usually a positive feeling, which triggers motion and improvement. Jealousy triggers paralysis, and that is the difference. You cannot be someone else, you are “you”, so focus on being the best “you” that you can possibly be!

Remind yourself of the consequences
What good has ever come out of being jealous? I can think of only one and I will discuss it in my last point. But usually, jealousy only leaves a trail of hurt and disappointment. Why allow yourself to feel this way if you know nothing good can come out of it? This is about being in control of your own mind. I know that jealousy is a hard emotion to control. This is why you need to remind yourself of all the potential bad things that can result from expressing this jealousy. You are not only bringing yourself down by being jealous, but chances are, you are affecting other people as well. Do you really want to be the root of such a negative experience to the people around you? Think about the consequences as soon as your jealousy grows so that you can more easily tame it.

Assess your lifestyle
A friend of mine once told me that his jealous ways completely disappeared once he changed his eating habits into a healthier direction. I found this quite fascinating. Take a closer look at your way of life. Perhaps the source of your jealous ways lies in the fact that you do not have a proper diet, do not exercise enough, or do not have a constructive hobby. Lacking in these areas can have serious effects on your psyche. Doing activities that make you happy & feel good will only boost my first point about focusing on what’s good about you. If you are moping around your home, eating junk food, and feeling sorry about yourself, chances are your potential for being a jealous person will be much higher.

Channel your jealousy into motivation

Instead of letting the jealousy eat you up, think about what you can do about it. Do not linger endlessly into the feelings of jealousy, it will drive you mad and irrational. Concentrate on a constructive way to direct the energy that you are expressing due to this jealous emotion into something that you can benefit from. Allow jealousy to motivate you into being an even better person than you are. Let it push you to improve yourself. Instead of letting jealousy destroy you, you turn it around and make it work for you. You will soon realize that jealousy will turn into aspirations, which can then be to your advantage. Channeling your jealousy into something that can motivate you to change, improve, or grow is a wonderful way to gain control over jealousy and make it work for you.

I have seen so many people lose so much because of letting their jealousy get out of control. I hope this article can help others in such a position to gain control back over this combustible emotion so that they do not suffer the same fate.

How do you usually cope with jealousy?

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  1. Amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    I have an amazingly talented girlfriend, and once in a while I come to feel extremely down on myself, jealous of her endless talents, hobbies, and passions. It’s especially hard to control jealousy and not compare yourself when the other person is your girlfriend! I try telling myself to instead be proud of having a talented girlfriend, but even then the feeling still lingers inside.
    But this article has opened my eyes to something I already knew – my lifestyle needs a change. I sit at home, watching YouTube videos all day and playing games, while she’s sewing or gardening or practicing piano or reading a book or decorating for Christmas or making an amazing craft – the list goes on and on! I need to do something more productive with my life!!!
    Hopefully this way I’ll be able to be content with my skills and abilities while also being grateful for my girlfriend’s many talents. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. i have the issue with always being jealousy of people being around my girl friend i mean she is mine not anybody elses and she says i need help someone please help me i need advise here is my email bootman82@yahoo.com

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  3. YOU ARE BEATIFULL THE WAY YOU ARE why i u judging what God gave you,you are unique the way you are dont try to change to iimpress someone if he/she loves you he/she must accept you the way you are God create us differently because we are different yes and unique in our own way i remember i use to buy expensive chloths to look good and want to attract my dream man but i found out i was wasting my time coz every guy i date was not good enough coz i thought hes not meeting my standard i found my self single they i started to forget about my ego i prefer to be a natural woman a dark lady with a fro then i meet my fiance who loves me and apprecite me the way i am a true african woman i say you are who you are thank you

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  4. While some of the article seems nice and somewhat well spoken, I found it kind of shallow. Like for example,
    “I spend more time thinking about what I do right than what I do wrong. We all have our faults, sure.”.

    It seems in life when you focus on the I, I, I, word you kind of set yourself up for jealousy in that “I” is a Pride operative. Maybe if one said “Let me look inside myself find the beauty of who I can be, the promise that I will be, the music that I can make with others as we all traverse existence together”, maybe the better call. Find a way to look at jealous feelings from the outside is normally a better aid.

    Looking around, it seems that the finger is pointed at jealousy is a couples thing but really its not. Just kind of wish that there is a deeper discourse of this subject.

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  5. I liked the article on How to control your jealousy, because I have got a lot
    of jealous people where I live, all because I am a professional in my field and I am smarter than them, how can I get these people not to be jealous of me. Can you please send me your free newsletters on jealousy. Thankyou. Silvana.

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  6. I have been jealous my whole life of other girls. Comparing myself to them, and making myself feel low for no reason.

    It’s one thing to be jealous of girls who aren’t your friends. Eventually, after not seeing them awhile, you forget.

    But I am jealous of one of my best friends, who is very pretty, has bigger boobs that guys gawk at at the clubs, as well as a friendly attitude.

    When she goes into the club, at times I feel invisible. Guys who might talk to me that first would stray to her, just like I imagined it would be like.

    I never was like this, sure, I would notice someone was good looking, but I would have fun no matter what, and I would attract a bunch of people myself.

    Now I just feel like I have lowest self-esteem and no confidence. Worse, I feel like I am betraying a good friend by wishing it was the opposite.

    I really hope I can have a healthy mentality and not be so competitive. And not take every rejection so seriously. I wish I know my own worth one day.

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  7. What do you do when your trying not to b jealous but you have to deal with the guys x a lot because of kids and you know she wants him back but he doesn’t want her?

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  8. After reading this article kind of opened my eyes to c things different. I admit I’m a very jealous person n nothing good happens when I get jealous. When I c my bf or hear him talking to another girl I get to jealous that my body temperature changes n i feel sick to my stomach I get anxiety and ect… and I know at the end of the day it only affects me n not him. I have low self-esteem n i put my self down alot n i have a problem to compare my self to other girls that I think my bf would like. But I honestly want to stop been jealous for good and focus more on my confidence and feel good about my self.

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  9. I’ve definitely had my struggles with jealousy. I do think it’s rooted in low self worth. I also think it’s a natural human emotion that people have to cope with from time to time. Feeling jealous from time to time, and letting jealousy run your life are two different things. It’s not something you’d want to sweep under the rug.

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  10. My jealousy is something that I’ve had a problem with for years. It’s my self-esteem that’s a big issue, not having the prettiest smile puts a lot of things on pause for me. I’m twenty six years old, and have never had a study job, besides housecleaning because I’m so afraid of getting rejected. I’m tired of the feeling of never being able to achieve, I want it more than anything. Over the past few days, I’ve tried to build confidence, but coming across this article has helped so much. I won’t allow my fears to hold me back from getting a job and moving away to start a life. I won’t allow myself to feel less attractive than the other girl.

    Thank you for posting this. Tho my jealous is not ruining others around me, it’s ruining me. But as of now, no more of the negative will stand in my way.

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  11. I accuse my partner all the time of things I’ve dobe

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  12. This is so brilliant! It has helped me

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  13. my girl that not actually my girlfriend always make me jealous,and when we got into a fight abouy my jealousy she keep saying that im so insecure.So what is insecure even mean i didn’t quite get it?

    please respone anyone please just email me,im just so frustated about this and cant help my self about it ๐Ÿ™‚ thx

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  14. as for me i always feel jealous whenever i see a guy talking to my girl lover. And what gets me crazier is when i call her phone and she is speaking to someone else. But one thing she does too is that she tells me everything that goes on. What really should i do to erase these jealousy?

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  15. I like the articel and i’m good now, but my story is i am jealous for my best friend dihia who talk alot with my other best friend yacine

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  16. This article was great. I will really try all of this… This is like therapy for me. I recently may have ruined a relationship due to jealousy… My significant other needs space and time to fin herself and see if I’m worth pursuing anymore. I may have really done it, but with motivation and this article, maybe it is not too late!

    Thank you for all of your help, I may keep you all updated!

    -Devon

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  17. Jealousy, a word I struggle to spell let alone come to understand.

    For me, I was always jealous but never really knew why or what was happening. Different feelings would swirl up inside and I would often sob like a baby into tissues on the floor feeling very sorry for myself.

    I knew I was a good person, I cared for myself, other people and generally wanted the best for everyone. I just couldn’t seem to handle my boyfriend talking to other girls or doing things without me. I began to feel quite possessive and noticed how controlling I was. I also did not like being this person, deep inside it felt wrong to be so controlling and demanding.

    I started to ask myself questions about why was I like this, I wasn’t born like it! how had I got to this place. I then began to understand about thought patterns and how people can easily get stuck in a learnt behaviour which can impact on their relationships. I had noticed also that I was jealous of my older sister and sometimes her relationship with mum, I felt left out and not good enough.

    The useful tips I found for jealousy are:

    It’s not really jealousy, it’s about your insecurities which happened along the way. When you start looking into them, you see why you have become jealous or insecure.

    Try not to take things personally, attention is something we all love and get a lot from but when it’s not there we can feel low and look to fill the gap. I try to allow that sometimes I will receive it and it’s nice but also the times I’m not receiving it, that’s nice too.

    I hope this helps

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  18. thank uhh so much 4 d article… m also a very competitive person which makes it very difficlt 4 me 2 control jealousy..

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  19. This article really gives me hope, jealousy is currently destroying my life and I’m not going to let this happen thanks to your advice!

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    • Awesome to hear Maxime…maintain the big picture in mind, most of the time, jealousy is derived from things we make up in our mind, not reality. Keep it up, glad the article helped you out ๐Ÿ™‚

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  20. I’ve been so jelours so thnx for this acticle i need more motivated i need some help about my short tamper.i’ve got true love i dont like some one who cherted on me

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  21. hellow. i want to know which people of country are the most jealous in the would?

    thankyou very well

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  22. Thank you for the article, it really helps:) I’ve always been jealous of girls in my school cuz i thought they were popular and noticeable while im a nobody.

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  23. I realized after four years of being with a man with extreme jealousy problems that it will never get better. He put very little effort into getting help. Did attempt to see a therapist the first year and barely tried medication to control his thoughts. I just finally gave up and accepted that he has done this his whole life in relationships. Claimed I was the love of his life and that I brought it out in him because he loved me so much. Yeah loved me so much to put me through hell and back. I was bitter for awhile, clearly he was not stable to pursue me when he first met me. I should of told him to take a hike from the beginning. Believe me he was very suave and used the old tried and true technique that he knows can get a woman. A total fraud. Fake facade to bring me in pretending to be the utmost stable and sincere caring man ever. All lies and fabrications. He will keep doing this over and over. The thought of him makes my stomach turn. I finally fell out of love with him and left. When I think of him, I feel nothing. Eventually if your stuck in a relationship with someone who is extremely jealous, give it time and u will lose all feelings of love. I am amazed how I was at one time totally in love with this man and now I have no feelings of any kind left for him. I was able to walk away without shedding a tear. We had been through countless break ups. I actually am excited that I’m finally free! Just remember they have been fake from day one and every loving word or gesture was not genuine. It’s to feed their insecurities.

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  24. good points.. i am getting jealous with everybody. now i get good idea .. as you said i will turn this habit to motivate my careers. thanks thanks of lot

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  25. Is it jealously or being afraid of being made a fool of? I don’t know what to do. I have a great guy I think. We do for each other, but about 9 months into the relationships I found out he was using. Vicodin like 10 a day or more just by touching something in his truck and they feel out. My heart sinks just thinking about it and its been a year and so many minus. Then a month later Im looking online on his phone and a message pops up saying “I got another check baby.” Under Peter which it was his exwife. So now u think is thinks I’m some fool. I don’t know what to do. I cant get it out of my head I feel I cant trust him. And one Dag we went out to dinner and I saw him looking bruise me so I turn back and its some older lady in a skirt. Wtf what am I to think. There are times he looks but turns his head like his not. IM I HIS FOOL. Please help. Its come down to the point that I don’t like going anywhere with him. By the way he doesn’t want me to work because j get hit one a lot.he is a good guy. I have five kids and he treats them like they are his. Please Guelph we are suppose. To be getting married next month but j don’t think I can. Dignityr@Yaho.com

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  26. A very much attractive, simple and productive article. After reading the article I feel good about myself. Right now I am in office and was feeling jelousy about a person. Thanks to this article after reading it I do not feel jelousy. Yes Jelousy really destroys once thought and his actions. A person can loss lot of power and money if he allows jelousy as a way of his life. Thank you again for writing this wonderful article. May I know how to become consistent?

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  27. You people really need to brush up on your grammar. That is beside the point though. This is a short and sweet article that appears to have the essentials to overcoming jealousy. I am going to try and put them into practice and hopefully rid my own relationship of jealous poison. Provided here are excellent ways to deal with jealousy on the whole but I am still wondering how to deal with a sudden onset of jealousy. Say a cute female friend is flirting with your boyfriend and it appears to be quite harmless. A sudden and intense feeling of jealousy washes over you but you don’t want to do anything irrational. You know your bf will think you are being crazy or controlling if you take him aside and tell him he is being inappropriate, especially when you have exerted jealous tendencies in the past. What then?

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  28. Hi

    Thank you so much for this input

    You know I know I am not jealous of any one but I do want to be a perfect person but in my own space without checking what one has and not.

    But I find it difficult to understand people who are jealousy of others again I ma saying I am not a jealous person I have my parents to thank and also the backgraound I as brought and also associated then but when you grom you meet certain individuals and they compare that and that, yes it does happen even to me to compare what one has but really I always check on my own like and don’ts because I know that I am a very sensitive person though I am trying to work out on that sensitivity because I kow it gets to some people around me very seriously but it’s me hey(working on that)

    Jealousy is so destroying everything, You know I had this particular lady whom I used to admire and like so much but I have found out and also realise that she lately does not like me and she really compares what ever I have or try to have what ever I want, so I have decided to distance myself from her though I really do not like it because I still like her

    Thanks

    Lin

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  29. i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6 years to my husband and all of a sudden, another woman came into the picture.. he started hailing me and he was abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all costโ€ฆthen he filed for divorce..my whole life was turning apart and i didnโ€™t know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned the kids.. so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell casterโ€ฆso i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didnโ€™t believe in all those thingsโ€ฆ then when he did the special prayers and spell, after 2days, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldnโ€™t believe it..anyways we are back together now and we are happy…

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  30. This was more helpful than I expected, I always knew the problem was within me, but this is the first article to make me reflect on myself instead of blaming the person. It doesn’t 100% solve my situation, but I guess thats up to me right? Thanks a lot, plenty of food for thought ๐Ÿ˜€

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  31. I am a very jealous person and it completely has taken over my life. Mainly I am jealous of this one girl I grew up with/went to school with. She was always the popular one etc. I moved away from that small town and years later I found out this girl married the most popular boy in our grade. Of course the boy I always thought was so handsome (and still do til this day)! So now they are married and expecting twin boys and it makes me absolutely sick. I can barely control my irrational feelings about hating this girl so much for getting everything she wants! I have been trying to control my feelings, I block her on FB so I don’t have to see her updates but then I end up unblocking her and upsetting myself when I see pictures or read her updates. My jealousy has paralyzed me into living my life. Most of my dreams are even consumed by this couple. I can’t help but wish I was her and married to this guy, who seems to be absolutely head over heels for her after 15 yrs of being together! I guess deep down I want so badly to have what she has, to be in love to a handsome guy who loves me the same and to be pregnant with a baby let alone twin boys, jeez! I can’t help but feel hate for these two, they get everything they want and don’t seem to have one struggle in the world. They are also so obnoxious with their status updates and the way they talk. He acts like he is so cool and it annoys me. ๐Ÿ™
    Hopelessly, dealing with my jealousy….

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  32. When the woman I love broke up with me, my world fell apart. I had gone to several casters and I got no results or insufficient ones. I found and gave another try to retrieve my lover and restore the passionate relationship I had with her. Iโ€™m so glad I did and trusted him. he performed a spiritual cleansing to banish negative energies and cast a love spell. After 2days, the woman I missed dearly started to call me and told me few days ago that she still loves me and wants to try again. Thank you

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  33. Hi!
    I like the article. I have a husband and he is like very friendly and he can get friend very easy. whe he looks to the other woman I feel insecure or if he talk to the woman very nice, I feel that He is trying to flirt with her. Sometimes he is even hug and kiss the womam even just meet. And I always thinking bad to him may be he is cheating on me or he fall in love with someone else. What should I do this jealousy? I am very tired of this! Always crying, stress, thingking negative….
    Please help me what should I do…

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  34. I really liked the article. The only thing is … it is easier said then done. I have been in a relationship for 3years now and my jealousy an controlling is really killing my relationship. We have had a bumpy road but we are still together and i know we can be so happy together. Lately she has been so unhappy with my controlling and jealousy that our relationship is going down hill. I am just so paranoid of losing her. She is my WHOLE life. There is nothing I wouldn’t do for her. I am just scared she will go out and leave me. If she left me i am not sure if I can actually handle that. That is the last thing I want so I am really trying to stop being so jealous and insecure. I need more help!! SOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!!!!

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  35. i like it.it taught me something!

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  36. This helped me, it made me feel like i should push myself further and further to improve myself on my jealousy. I love my Gf she’s amazing and treat’s me right and i know she does love me she proves it too me all the time, but there’s always a feeling that other guys will come along and take her from me. She has a lot of guy friends which can add on to it in a way but it doesn’t bother me to the point where i can’t stand it, just that all these guy’s find her attractive or want to get with her and i get so angry and frustrated and it’s so stressful and i wish i could just blow it off. I’m afraid it’ll eventually get so worse she won’t be able to handle it and leave and i couldn’t handle it. I get paranoid as well like she’s doing stuff behind my back even though i know she isn’t but it lingers over my head sometimes and i need too learn to control that also, i do trust her though. But this did help me a lot, thank you so much!

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  37. it been a while now i felt like this am not jealous of people or what they got , only when am in a relationship i sometime get jealous because of pass situations an all this jealousy makes me forget who i am sometime an what am here for ,,,trust issues ,,,but am working on it thats why am here reading this motivating message , an its helping thank youuuu

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  38. It was very helpful and certainly I really like the way you write and express it as pure logic instead of an incessant rant. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  39. Thank you so much. I’ve been jealous of other guys that were around my girlfriend for the stupidest reasons. I think it’s just because right now, me and my girlfriend are going through a long distance relationship, and I’m just scared of losing her. But I realize now that, and she’s told me them herself, the good qualities I have that very good boyfriends do. I hope that with this article and advice I can lower my jealousy to the point where it doesn’t cause stress on my girlfriend. Thank you once again! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  40. hi fredrick. i liked this article of yours alot. bur i personally dont feel you have xperienced jealousy to such an extent as i have. since an early age whatever ive felt i want ,i never got. irrespective if d mmount of hardwork i put in.during my 10 std xams, i uused to study for 12 hrs a day, but ended up getting only 72 %.and most of my frnds who hardly srudied for a month or so were all 80 up.that was the first time i xperienced jealousy. and since that day ive become a jealous person.
    im an engineer now, but i earn much less than my freinnds who r eithher bsc ir bms

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  41. I’m a jealous person by nature. One of the faults of being a scorpio with hurt pride and a low self esteem growing up. I can see how this could help a lot of people, including me. Thanks for writing. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  42. Thank you for this lovely post. Now I will try to improve and concentrate on me rather than focusing on other things. Thank you once again.

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  43. Your content is simply probably the most effective. Total effect of the site is just magnificent.

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  44. Thank you so much. I have a jealousy problem. This made me think about alot.

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  45. hi guys..im a very insecure person by nature..i feel extreemly jealous and low wen i see all my friends who are extremely lucky as they have everythin i always yearned for!!..financial security..amazin career..sound relationships..i sumtimes feel tat im the only one in this world wo works so hard to get wat he wants yet ends up gettin nothin..im feelin soo low..the feelin is both ineffable and excrutiating..ccan u ppl plz help me..

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  46. I have a boyfriend who is very friendly and nice to people. That is his nature I know but I always get extremely jealous when he gets too nice to women. I get so hurt when there is nothing to hurt about. I trust him but do not know why i get that way. It sis very serious . I do not seem to comprehend how to relate this article to my problem . I need more help. Thank you

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  47. hey , i was just setting here thinking about what’s my boyfriend doing,then i said to my self is it really worth it been jealous ….?! maybe i feel hurt by the things he has done but i read your article and i though twice ..i’m gonna try and practice this hopefully works for me .

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  48. This is an awesome website!! i’m not going to read any of the comments for fear of confusion and i also feel like reading about other people’s jealousy causes me to feel more anxiety than confusion than ever.

    in sticking to reading what this article says, i feel confident and inspired. it think i will re-visit this site on a regular basis and constantly re-read over the article until i feel like it is inscribed into the way i live my life. i want to follow these steps throughout my entire day to day life. and i feel that the fact that i want it so badly, is enough to channel my jealousy and make me a stronger person than ever!

    JEALOUSY IS PARALYSIS!!!!!!!! thankyou for this article ๐Ÿ™‚

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  49. not really at all i was kidding

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  50. this article really helped me

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  51. Dear Esther,

    If your relationship is based on lies, you need to get out. I don’t know. Maybe there’s someone out there for you. I’m a very jealous person because I have my own insecurity and I hate it. This article can help me to find good qualities witinin myself. However, I think it will take time and practice to cool down. My b/f said I am a very beautiful and successful person. However, I am jealous of all girls because I am like 10,000 miles from him. I’m afraid one day, he might be lonely and start dating a new girl who lives next door. It might happen, right? I am here in Asia and he is in NY state. I know I need to find a new guy but he is really nice and he takes a good care of me when I was in NY. Right now, I will just try not to be jealous and try to focus on my good qualities.

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  52. I’m always jealous of my b/f also since he always checks out girls when we eat out. Therefore, we have our own different reasons to be jealous. But yes, it is eating you up.

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  53. Amazing words. I am extremely jealous with my boyfriend but only because he’s given me tons of reasons. I’ve suffered due to lies over lies. I am trying HARD to learn how to control my jealousy once again but all the negative things he’s done keep surrounding my head. He tells me things are different but it is hard to trust him again. Our relationship is going down heel. If you have any suggestions for me PLEASE send them to my email. I am agonized and it’s consuming my happiness.

    armangi.villanueva@gmail.com

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  54. thank u so much for this! I’m such a jealous person and it’s killing me becuase I hate it! I love being at the top and when I’m not I hate anyone that is. For example I’m in top set english and my two best friends have been asked to do their g.c.s.e in english a year early so they get a private tutor in school and stuff and it makes me so mad! so mad at them, so mad at myself…and they talk about it CONSTANTLY it makes me feel tiny and stupid. do u know anything i can do? im really stuck!

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  55. You can never tell your good motives when you just read and observe from the viewers point of view, that is until you give a good comment such as this one! Great job my friend.

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  56. Thank you so much,
    This article has really cool me down. I have been jealous and have been thinking of something that made me jealous, and that thought might even not exist or not even true.
    I would love to copy this article down and store this in my phone, as a reminder, and would love to read this always, and be a good example..
    THe feeling of jealousy is…..as we can see all the comments,…everyone hates it!!! so do i…..
    thanks again, though this might not be the perfect antidote to jealousy, but at least a correct path to control ourselves and live a better life ๐Ÿ˜€

    Cheers
    a-better-AMOZ

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  57. I definitely like my own husband sooo much and furthermore he is actually fabulous for me. I really like every little thing that is related to him. The only problem though, is he is friends with too many ladies and I can’t stand realizing that he’s speaking with a variety of girls as an alternative to me. I hate being jealous. I’m trying to just ignore the jealousy but I can’t. Please help me out. Thanks.

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  58. I noticed something as well about this on another blog.Incredibly, your view on it’s diametrically opposite as to the I read previously. I am still trying to puzzle out over the conflicting points of view, but Im tipped heavily toward yours. As well as in any case, thats what is so outstanding about modern democracy and the marketplace of ideas onthe internet.

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  59. sometimes i just get a bottle of tequila and cut myself at
    times cuz my girl tells me shes tired of my jealousy… i have been
    soooo close to killing myself before…… i hate the person i have
    become…… i hate myself…. i dont ever want to wish this diseas
    to anybody nomatter how harsh they were to me…. by one part its
    the jealous persons fault but on the other its also the partner who
    doesnt really understand that you dont chose to be like this… its
    a bad bad bad desias and its very stressful and annoying…. its
    the worst…. i hate it… ;_;

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  60. Your tips are really good advice and we all suffering this @?[]%$# disease should take them into account!

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  61. Although this is great advice, it seems to be coming from the perspective of someone who doesn’t experience feeling jealous, so therefore does not know how incredibly hard it is to feel the strong, sometimes scary, and anxious emotions attached to jealousy.

    These are quick fixes, but really I think the only way to truly get rid of jealousy is to do deeper and look at the root of where these emotions come from. I struggle with jealousy and feelings of not being good enough, and am incredibly cautious in my relationships. Yet no one would ever tell from how I interact with the world, I seem confident and happy almost all the time.

    It’s never as simple as “I’m just going to choose not to be jealous” and if you expect yourself to just “get over it”, then you’re going to feel like a failure when you don’t do it as easily as you think you should. Jealousy comes from deep insecurity, a need for control, and a lack of trust. Add all the complex sexual and gender issues we face at the office, on tv, and in our own competitive world and it’s a recipe for disaster.

    I think it’s a good start to give yourself a pep talk, but the real cure will come from digging down and really confronting some of where this stuff comes from. Absent dad who flirted with other women but ignored his daughter? Divorced parents where everything was chaotic at home? Dad who never showed his son any approval? All root causes of jealousy.

    Good luck everyone. This isn’t easy, and be nice to yourself. Take a deep breath and let your mind wander to where you think the jealousy might stem from and take it from there. You might find some surprising answers.

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  62. omg thx a lot!! now i think im better and more optimistic and ….confident:D ….

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  63. I think one should tranfer the potential jealousy into zeal to make oneself better than thier competitors

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  64. wowowo i never thought of this…its so true…=]

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  65. Good article! Although I believe this 100%, sometimes my mind gets in the way of learning a different way. Thank you for the post and wish me success!

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  66. im the jealous , it took all my life , i wish i could kill my self just not hear that voice of mine judging me and comparing me with others …or with some people that i hated all my life becuz of the feeling they gave me, grew in years and now it's all my heart ! hatred !

    thinking of somebody all the time and when u start to be reasonable u say “Whoa ! everybody is not supposed to be happy/beautiful/successful or what ever ! Now what !?” and the next time u cry about this sentence that u'd made to calm ur self down !

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  67. i am such a jealous person but i never used to be> now i hate it even when my bf is near a girl or just says hi to one if his female friends. it gets bad my heart starts racing but i wish i didnt feel that way

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  68. First of all, you really shouldn't be having this problem. It's unfair to your partner who completely trusts you.

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  69. Ei tnx, reading this article cheered me up about my situation with my boyfriend and made me realize that i'm the only one in control of myself. Now, i'm not gonna let jealousy control me and i'm sure that following these tips i'll gain back the happy relationship that i once had…i hate to behave with jealous and i'm ashamed of it because they DO NOT brng anything good, instead they get things worse and worse.
    Even though i know its gonna be a little hard to get rid of this, i am possitive that i can do it bcuz my personality was not like this before and i'm becoming in something ridiculous and illogical!! Really, this article gave me hope and i'm glad that i have read it before a bad ending. tnx again for posting..!!

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  70. hii..i thnk zis article is vry helpful 2 many people..especially zose who r d jealous types.

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  71. hi guys…its nice to know, that there is an article written about jealousy.. and i hope that there are more to come.. Me, Personally having trouble dealing with this emotions and i really and eager to avoid it.. hope more article will come to help people like me….

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  72. glad that this article was helpful for your friend!

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  73. dude you just saved my friends life and his relationship thank you

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  74. Hello,

    I dont know whats wrong with me! I know i have jealousy problems. My boyfriend and I always argue over his niece shes about 4years old and I just cant stand it when she tries to hug him or kiss him on the lips (the whole family does this)?!!! Its like she is nOT your daughter! I get so furious whenever i see her with him. I know this is soooo damn ridiculous and im ashame of it because its just a damn lil girl! but yet i dont know i just feel like hes cheating on me, or im not getting the attention i think i deserve i dont know but this has to STOP! he says hes tired of my b.s. and im tired of feeling like this I need some real help, reading this article kinda of gave me an understanding and I appreciate you taking the time to post this up. Made me realize i can change. Thank you

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  75. Hi Trista,

    glad the article made a difference for you ๐Ÿ™‚ Usually, solutions for much more simpler than we think!

    regards

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  76. Thank you for this article. I really needed to hear a simple yet accute approach such as this.
    I know I have a problem, but there are not too many remedies out there to try and fix and or deal with it. This seems logical and hopefully, easy. Jealousy is a beat within me that I have a hard time controling but now I have some faith I may be able to calm it down if not get rid of it.

    Thank you, so much.

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  77. OMG! Thank you so much! This isn’t like any of the other crap I have been looking at, this is just what I need. You just made me a better person. Thank you,
    Skylar โ™ฅ

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  78. OMG! Thank you so much! This isn’t like any of the other crap I have been looking at, this is just what I need. You just made me a better person. Thank you,
    Skylar โ™ฅ

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  79. i have jealousy and i cant control it so i just cry and that does not work or i get revenge but then i still get jealous so i really need to follow something like this and if this doesnt work (which i think will work) i need to go to anger managment which will be hard to deal with.

    i should have read this earlier it really helps!!!

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  80. i have jealousy and i cant control it so i just cry and that does not work or i get revenge but then i still get jealous so i really need to follow something like this and if this doesnt work (which i think will work) i need to go to anger managment which will be hard to deal with.

    i should have read this earlier it really helps!!!

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  81. I;m glad i read this post because most recently i have been fighting jealousy with this girl. We promised each other that if we hook up with someone we will tell each other but she has been seeing this guy and i know who he is and everytime she goes to see him my emotions run wild and the jealousy rages within me. Last night was my breaking point and I came down on her and every girl with raw, animal emotions. I need to learn to control my jealousy because i am turning into my ex who was exactly the same way. I refuse to become her and becuz of what i did i nearly lost a friend tho thankfully she forgave me. i dont know why i feel like this or anyone for that matter it is the animal instincts inside of us that make us feel this way. i truly hope that with time i can learn to control this deadly emotion and move on. Thanks for posting!

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  82. I;m glad i read this post because most recently i have been fighting jealousy with this girl. We promised each other that if we hook up with someone we will tell each other but she has been seeing this guy and i know who he is and everytime she goes to see him my emotions run wild and the jealousy rages within me. Last night was my breaking point and I came down on her and every girl with raw, animal emotions. I need to learn to control my jealousy because i am turning into my ex who was exactly the same way. I refuse to become her and becuz of what i did i nearly lost a friend tho thankfully she forgave me. i dont know why i feel like this or anyone for that matter it is the animal instincts inside of us that make us feel this way. i truly hope that with time i can learn to control this deadly emotion and move on. Thanks for posting!

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  83. Thank You Very Much For This Article My Jealousy Almost Made Me Lose The Love Of My Life And Possibly A Dear Friend… But This Has Helped Me Cope With Everything And I Know What I Need To Do Now

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  84. Thank You Very Much For This Article My Jealousy Almost Made Me Lose The Love Of My Life And Possibly A Dear Friend… But This Has Helped Me Cope With Everything And I Know What I Need To Do Now

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  85. i wish i could read this artical earlier, and realised and listen to people about my jealous~ now, i dont know whats gonna happen between me and my boyfriend, because of my jealousy…its go out of control ragularly, and he has just enough of it!! I really wish i can make it change somehow…and win back this relationship!! Hope its not too late!!

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  86. i wish i could read this artical earlier, and realised and listen to people about my jealous~ now, i dont know whats gonna happen between me and my boyfriend, because of my jealousy…its go out of control ragularly, and he has just enough of it!! I really wish i can make it change somehow…and win back this relationship!! Hope its not too late!!

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  87. I love it so much wisdom I used to be jealous of my girlfriend but not anymore I have my self to worry about. So I dont care if she gets better grades than me or stronger than me or a better family relationship cause I know I have thoughs.

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  88. I love it so much wisdom I used to be jealous of my girlfriend but not anymore I have my self to worry about. So I dont care if she gets better grades than me or stronger than me or a better family relationship cause I know I have thoughs.

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  89. I dont feel jealous of anyone,
    because if it’s something I dont have or own, maybe it’s something that I was supposed to have on that moment.

    Even fortunate people can have unfortunate things..
    thinking about the talents and good things you have will make you not feel jealous, if you ever feel jelaous think about the good things you have and see the negative things other have that you don’t…

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  90. I dont feel jealous of anyone,
    because if it’s something I dont have or own, maybe it’s something that I was supposed to have on that moment.

    Even fortunate people can have unfortunate things..
    thinking about the talents and good things you have will make you not feel jealous, if you ever feel jelaous think about the good things you have and see the negative things other have that you don’t…

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  91. hello there this really help me to think i have always wondered about her other male friends and what they have but i still have a lote to work on im really scared that ima hurt someone if it keeps up they are better than me she tells me there not an she loves me but i cant sink that into my brain im really needing some help can u try to help me threw this i talk to her about it but it dont go no where i dont like to fight or think negitive but it happens i pray about it all the time if theres something out there that someone can help me or suggest plz feel free to let me no thanks an this post was really great thanks again bobby_dee_26@yahoo.com

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  92. hello there this really help me to think i have always wondered about her other male friends and what they have but i still have a lote to work on im really scared that ima hurt someone if it keeps up they are better than me she tells me there not an she loves me but i cant sink that into my brain im really needing some help can u try to help me threw this i talk to her about it but it dont go no where i dont like to fight or think negitive but it happens i pray about it all the time if theres something out there that someone can help me or suggest plz feel free to let me no thanks an this post was really great thanks again bobby_dee_26@yahoo.com

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  93. I really appreciate this article. its because im a jealousy guy. i always scolded my girlfriend just because of jealousy. i hope with this article i can change my life. thanks..CheeRs=>

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  94. I really appreciate this article. its because im a jealousy guy. i always scolded my girlfriend just because of jealousy. i hope with this article i can change my life. thanks..CheeRs=>

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  95. Hi Elexus,

    I’m glad this article can be of good use for you! Remember that each one of us have our own set of qualities, skills, experience and knowledge. You are the only YOU in the world. It’s pointless to try to be someone else ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  96. thank u soo much for writing this..it has made things better fo me..ive always been jealous of this one person..and it eats me up inside and i hate it..i just wanted to get rid of the jealousy..and youve given me some hope..and some ways to do it..
    lately ive been pushing myself to be a better person on that jealousy..and its making me who i want to be..so like i said thank u..for everything.. :]

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  97. thank u soo much for writing this..it has made things better fo me..ive always been jealous of this one person..and it eats me up inside and i hate it..i just wanted to get rid of the jealousy..and youve given me some hope..and some ways to do it..
    lately ive been pushing myself to be a better person on that jealousy..and its making me who i want to be..so like i said thank u..for everything.. :]

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