Here are 4 red flags that may spell trouble in any relationship. Although one or two on their own don’t mean you’re headed for a breakup, it does mean you need to work on things together if you want to be happy.
Your partner is spending less time with you:
Look for a dramatic decrease in together time. If your partner used to call you every day, if you saw each other on certain days, had your happy little routines, and suddenly things have tapered off or halted completely, this can point to possible trouble.
Don’t jump to conclusions and automatically think he/she is cheating or doesn’t love you anymore, sometimes they may have to work late and at times they truly may be out with friends. After all, you probably work late at times and visit friends too! If it becomes a pattern though and is combined with any of the following signs, you’ll definitely want to talk with your partner about this and work on bridging the gap between the two of you.
Your partner starts dressing differently:
If your partner used to be perfectly comfortable in sweats and old T-shirts and suddenly starts dressing better before going out, if he seldom shaved and now has a baby-smooth face, if she never wore perfume and now won’t walk out the door without spraying some on, be on alert. They may be losing interest in the relationship and are consciously or subconsciously trying to attract someone else. Alternately, they may be having self-esteem issues and by dressing better it’s giving them the boost they need. Again, talk to your partner! I can’t stress the importance of open communication enough.
There’s less intimacy in the relationship:
If he/she seems uninterested in being affectionate and/or if your sex life takes a nosedive, this is another sign that may be rocky between you. Remember, there needs to be multiple signs not just this one. At times your partner may be under a great deal of stress or is depressed—these are two other common reasons for a decrease in intimacy. However, when a person loses interest in their relationship, they usually distance themselves physically and emotionally.
Sparks fly when you bring things up:
Maybe you’re just feeling insecure and you blow small things out of proportion, maybe you’re just feeling needy right now. That happens. But if you approach your partner and discuss the fact that you feel they aren’t acting like they used to or you miss how things used to be between you and he/she erupts like a volcano this is a bad sign! If your partner truly loves you and cares about making the relationship work, why get upset if you mention some changes in personality or actions?
On their own, these problems may be nothing, but combined they add up to the fact that there are problems in the relationship you can no longer ignore. You need to take the initiative and try to work things out. Talk with your partner, don’t yell or cry or accuse. Just tell him/her how you’re feeling, that you miss the special times together, and that you want to do whatever it takes to be close again. Avoid pointing fingers and pointing out faults, nobody is open to changing or trying if they’re automatically put on the defensive. Try to remain open, loving, kind and compassionate.
If you’re partner is willing to open up and work with you on making changes, great! If he/she has no desire to create a safe, stable, and loving relationship with you, then you may want to think about separating and finding someone who is more suitable for you. Love is everywhere, don’t think you have to settle for one person if you aren’t happy!
well ,i just read this article and is making me feel really weird ,because some of the stuff you mention here is happening to me ;'( i dont really know if hes cheating on me or he is not interested on me anymore ,everyday im stressing thinking about what hes doing who is he gonna talk to is so stressfull being like this please help me.