Many of us find ourselves confused when we lack an answer to a question. Back in grade school, you could imagine your classmates in utter silence when the teacher posed a question to everyone, and no one knew the answer.
More often, it seemed to be the uncertainty of the answer you had that caused you to be silent in the first place. Everyone would look around to check for each other’s uncertainty. Oddly, this collective lack of confidence seemed to bond together all of the students in some form of guessing organization. Those who knew the answers were either admired or criticized. In both cases, knowing the answer separated the knowledgeable.
From this point on, you’ve been conditioned to believe knowing the answers was the greatest achievement. From your tests in class to the knowing the rules at home to dating and friendships to job interviews, you’ve been convinced that having the right answers would take you to any height of success.
But what if the equation was reversed?
What if the solution was not the ultimate achievement?
To find the best answers or solutions in our daily lives requires us to ask the most accurate questions. While the answer is the goal, the question prompts our minds to hone in on specific means to find the answer. And like a pair of binoculars, the sharper you phrase your question, the more precise will be your answer.
Instead of saying, “I want to be wealthy,” ask yourself, “What habits do I need to start becoming wealthy now?”
Instead of declaring, “I want to live life to the fullest,” ask yourself, “How do I appreciate life each day?”
Questions form the framework upon which you begin building towards the goals you set. While you may have excellent goals to achieve, worthy of your talents and certainly obtainable, using ineffective questions can deter you from your concentration on the accomplishment.
Challenge: become more aware of the kinds of questions you ask. Make them more precise and give attention to the answers you are led to.
This article was written by Trent A. Rhodes.